Can We Change?

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Can we change?

As a Senior Consultant at PI Midlantic, working with the Predictive Index®, I’m asked at almost every workshop, “Are we stuck with what our Predictive Index® behavioral pattern says about us?  Can’t we change over time?”

The answer I give is, “Yes” and “No.”  Our Predictive Index (PI®) results, that measure our natural drives and motivational needs which are expressed through our behavior, and our Cognitive abilities, that measure our mental ability to learn and solve problems are pretty much fixed in our early years.   

What’s not fixed is our Emotional Intelligence or “EQ.” 

Emotional intelligence is defined as the capacity to be aware of, control, and express one's emotions, and to handle interpersonal relationships judiciously and empathetically.”  PI practitioners know that having a High B Factor (Extraversion) tends to make someone more empathetic.  But sometimes in our day-to-day interactions, that empathy may need to be toned down or amped up.  Knowing which way to move that dial and doing so is where EQ comes into play. 

Viktor Frankl’s famous quote speaks to EQ: “Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.”  When you look at the various factors in your PI® results, you see what your natural response to a given stimulus might be.  Experience, maturity and a conscious decision to respond differently is an indicator of applying Emotional Intelligence to the situation.  We always have free choice to respond differently.  As Frankl says, that’s where growth and freedom lies.  As we strive to be effective leaders, applying EQ to our business relationships and decisions is one way to truly be our best.

One of the tools in the Predictive Index® application and methodology is a Personal Development Chart.  That chart explains, for example, what the strengths may be for having High or Low Dominance as a natural trait.  It also shows where those strengths may be presented as challenges for you.  Finally, it offers some self-coaching tips to consider when you next find yourself in a situation where your natural response might not provide the best result.  Using this tool to coach yourself, or to coach a colleague can really help you grow Emotional Intelligence. 

So, the good news is that we are not “stuck” at all. The next time you are faced with a challenging relationship situation or decision, use that “space” that Frankl refers to.  Take a breath.  Then decide how you will respond.